On Sunday, Katie and I attended a parenting workshop because if there’s one thing I know about parenting, it’s that I need all the help I can get (because I have no idea what I’m doing!).
As I listened, took notes, and reflected on all the mistakes I’ve made as a parent, I couldn’t help but notice how the responsibilities of a parent and the responsibilities of an educator are so similar. Ultimately, God has placed parents and teachers in authority roles, and He expects us to lead, model, and reflect His love, mercy, and expectations.
A key concept taught in the workshop focused on how we, as parents, respond to children in both positive and negative ways. When a negative behavior needs to be addressed, it’s important to view that as an opportunity —not a hassle. We should ask ourselves, “What is God seeking to do in the life of this child at this moment, and how can I be a part of it?”
During corrective situations, we need to remember four things:
- Don’t turn moments of ministry into moments of anger.
- Don’t personalize what isn’t personal.
- Don’t be adversarial in your response.
- Don’t settle for quick solutions that don’t invoke change in your kids’ hearts.
Whether as parents or as educators, working with kids is hard; however, there is no greater calling and no greater opportunity to show the love, mercy, grace, and goodness of God, our Father. After all, as I was reminded this weekend in the parenting conference, “No one gives grace better than the person who knows how much grace he has already received.”